Did Demi Lovato Just Epically Shade Ex Max Ehrich? You Decide

In fact, Lovato has done more than pick up the pieces and move on: They’ve really found themselves, noting the break up led them on a path in discovering their sexuality.

“When I started getting older, I started realizing how queer I really am,” they told Glamour, later adding, “I thought I was going to spend my life with someone. Now that I wasn’t going to, I felt this sense of relief that I could live my truth.”

Ultimately, Lovato learned they feel “too queer” be with a cis man. “I hooked up with a girl and was like, ‘I like this a lot more.’ It felt better. It felt right,” they said. “Some of the guys I was hanging out with—when it would come time to be sexual or intimate, I would have this kind of visceral reaction. Like, ‘I just don’t want to put my mouth there.’ It wasn’t even based on the person it was with. I just found myself really appreciating the friendships of those people more than the romance, and I didn’t want the romance from anybody of the opposite sex.”